6 ways to demonstrate being present in the moment.August 29, 2020
One of the best ways to teach is through demonstration and in practice. Some habits transgress all faiths to benefit us all at a fundamentally human level. One of these is being present in the moment! To be present you need to be relaxed and mentally and Physically ( I would as spiritually) in the same place. This is not always possible but it is occasionally possible, and even occasionally makes an impact. These good habits will help you and help your littles be less stressed and lead to more rewarding and fulfilling lives.
1 Be there and on their level
Sit on the floor and be with them. Though you know that you will have to eventually get up don’t let on. Sit with them and be there to see what their doing, don’t lead the activity, teach or rerun a text, allow them to show you whatever it is, and not be interrupting anything. You are simply there. Avoid heavy conversations of responsibility and let them lead the play. Relax and be inspired to play along bring your flavor and your magick at the moment.
2 Ignore a Disruption
I know as adults we ignore things all the time. We do this to help ourselves focus on what’s most important at that moment. In fact, we even call if flow when it becomes aromatic and we are in the zone. Lots of work gets done and we feel exhilarated incited of drained at the end the day. Allowing or even cultivating this kind of flow between you and your child makes for some truly spectacular. With really young kids it helps to say thinks like that’s a phone call I can rerun or, let’s keep doing this I am having a very good time. Older children just need to witness you not be derailed for whatever it is you are doing.
3 Stop doing things you don’t like
Feel free to stop. Stop participating in an activity you don’t enjoy. Stop reading a book you don’t like and stop watching TV that you would described as dumb. Again with younger children it helps to say things like: I don’t like this I am going to choose something else. I find this makes a rally big impact when the TV is involved. This power of choice is almost a super power. Your child knowing that they have the power to chooses and chooses again increases their safety, it likely to encourage them to be a more active participant in their education and an more socially secure.
4 At a family gathering or event use your phone only for pictures
At a family gathering or special event only use your phone for pictures. Have it with you and take it out often. but don’t post until the end of the event. Ignore phone calls or emails. This type of discipline is different than when you leave your phone behind. The choice to do something and not do it is stepping bygone to remove the choice. you will likely remember the party better and have a better time as well. Be where you are and in time your kids will be with you too. (or at least that’s my hope)
5 The outside is waiting for you
Go outside and see the things that are missed if you are moving too quickly. A fun activity for this it the Bug the Photography Tour. this can be a time of renewal and togetherness. Nature is always there and yet is always changing. Taking the time to be in that space can only benefit you and your family.
6 Observe a Daily Ritual
However whatever fits for your family observing daily ritual water its setting intentions at breakfast or lighting incense and expressing gratitude between morning routine and homeschool mornings. This is a pause in our day we breathe and sometimes we center fast but some times it takes some time. But it takes the time it takes. We give it at that time. When we’re finished we move on with our day and life demands. that moment makes a difference and the days we skip it because of the life I notice.
We are teaching our kids more by what we do and how we engage with the world around us then we are with our words. Intentionally creating these experiences for your child is sure to help them no matter the path they choose. They will gain the ability to be present in their own lives this will empower them to make choices that reflect their best selves. You will also benefit. and together you will both build a culture of being present in each other’s lives, and what can be better than that?